When you start dating someone new, it is a common rule to keep things in your relationship a secret so that you get to know each other, until the both of you decide that this relationship is going somewhere and is going to be for a long term. In fact, this rule is too important and should be applied if you are dating someone who works with you at the same office. However, the trick question is: how to have a secret office romance? After you get to know your company’s relationship policy, follow these ways in order to successfully date a coworker in secret.
Have a mature discussion about the relationship
After four dates, you should consider having the “where is this going?” conversation. This is sooner that most relationships, because you will be seeing this person a lot and in a work space where you will be a secret. Moreover, in that conversation, you should try to discuss the seriousness of the relationship, how would the both of you handle things if the relationship ended, how you’re going to interact with, and treat each other at work, and what would happen if one of you should consider leaving the company, if that was what is needed.
Try to hang out with other colleagues at work.
In fact, if you only hang out with one another, you are going to give clues that you are in a relationship. There are ways to avoid this: never meet in an office where the door is closed, and make sure that you mingle with other people at events. In addition, do not show affection in a workplace.
When the right time comes, reveal your relationship to others.
After the both of you get to know each other, you have to tell your coworkers. The fact that you need to tell them is because they may look at you unprofessionally if they find out in a way or another.