Workaholic Husband , Deal With It
You are proud of his work. But he’s workaholic.
While you are proud of his hard work and thankful that he has a job, but you also are a little jealous. Your workaholic husband swears that he’s not cheating on you. But for you, he’s kind of … with his job. Well, a workaholic must love his career to be able to give it too much and from his valuable time. He is totally dedicated to it. He wants to make sure things get done correctly.
A workaholic acts the same way men in affairs with women do. He takes mysterious phone calls when you are out to dinner. His phone keeps beeping with early or late morning texts. And when you are lying in bed, he secretly emails and text co-workers. He thinks you’re not looking.
Of course making a big deal out of it, won’t get you anywhere. Learn how to deal with a workaholic husband.
To start with you need to stop getting jealous from his laptop. You know it’s the only major tool to get things done for a him.
When it gets really tough to handle, talk about it with him. Explain to your workaholic that he needs to be around to cater to your needs. If this is missing, it would lead to insecurity and emotional void in your relationship.
But, it’s not always about you. Listen to him and try to find out why he is a workaholic. You may learn something new. Directly after that try to set limits. Slowly, help your workaholic to work a bit less. But let the limit be a sensible one. Say “no” when needed. During this you and him alone, let your workaholic unwind. Create an interesting life for both of you. In case you need to share his work problems and achievements. Show interest in goals, daily problems, but make sure it does not drag.
Finally, accept that your workaholic partner leads this busy life. Learn how to use your alone time wisely.